okayysophia:

I think that a lot of black women feel like because we’re seen as the least desirable even in our own community, that we should be grateful to receive anything given to us. If we even try to raise our standards we’ll be seen as “asking for to much” so we settle for even lower than less ( half ass dates, cheating, multiple baby mamas, etc).

There’s this mentality that black women have to struggle, that we have to continuously take bullshit from people, that we have to take insults from people especially people from our community, and I’ve started to notice ever since black women have started to uplift themselves more, realise there worth and what they deserve, people come out of nowhere trying to put BW back in a box.

So many people benefit from the low self-esteem and suffering of black women. They use terms like “ride or die” “loyal” as some sort of reward or trophy to congratulate you for staying in the struggle. We’re conditioned to believe we’re made to struggle and accept mediocrity, and if we try deviating from that conditioning there is always black men and women (sadly) trying to put you back in the position of suffering.

okayysophia:

gwaindrifter:

puckconnolly:

Everyone may *think* they hate country music, but when Jolene, Before He Cheats, Take Me Home Country Roads, or Life is a Highway comes on, everyone is suddenly a liar.

I don’t hate country, I hate gun-totin’, beer-swillin’, truck-fuckin’ bro-country.

^^^^

smalldarlinglesbian:

male sexual violence includes the language they use, not only the actions they do.

whyyoustabbedme:

When your free trial ends and they ask for your credit card information 

yourbigsisnissi:

if you’re afraid to have difficult conversations in your relationship

your relationship is not as good or as strong as you think it is

talk about boundaries, talk about hurt feelings, talk about disappointments, talk about things that need to change

not when you’re angry, not as a tool to hurt the other person in an argument

have the difficult conversations

with respect, with intention, and with purpose

or don’t

but if you choose not to

know that your choosing to allow your relationship to be superficial or move forward aimlessly

know that you’re choosing to waste your time